stupid notifications don't work right

the game just threatened me if i quit again but i have never quit a game before been booted before because i accidentally killed a teammate but never quite a game

The quit probation system is working as intended.

Being booted and lagging out both count as quits. Lagging out counts so that people can’t just unplug their routers to escape the ban. Booting counts for a similar reason: it ensures that people don’t go on betrayal rampages in order to “quit” without consequences.

Be more careful with explosives and vehicles, and call your ISP if you’re having connection problems. :\