Schrodingers fireteam

BEFORE ANYONE TRIES TO SUGGEST IT THIS IS DURING THE SCHEDULED PLAY TIME THE MULTIPLAYER MENU/SHOP IS LOADING

My friend and I can’t seem to be in a fireteam consistently. We are both playing on steam. He can invite me to his fireteam through the infinite social menu, the update comes through my Xbox windows overlay but if I try to send him an invite that way he does not receive it. I can join him on steam but neither of us can send an invite that way and he can not join me that way. I can not change my fireteam privacy setting. it doesn’t update when I change it and it just stays set to private.

One time we were both in a fireteam and it was visible for both of us but I appeared offline to him. He tried to put us in an arena bot slayer match and he was able to load in but I stayed on the menu. After this attempt we both relaunched and I was in his fireteam on his end but on mine I was not in a fireteam at all and he appeared online but I could not join him and when I received invites from him and would accept nothing would happen. He could not receive invites I sent either.

ok update, this is only an hour later, STILL WITHIN THE MULTIPLAYER PLAYTIME WINDOW.

My main menu is now like if the multiplayer servers are not active, I get the “Please join us online to see offers and activities” message at the shop and the Multiplayer tab does not load. this is after 5+ relaunches